Joan and Victor (not their real names) run a successful business together. They raised 3 kids, and now they are enjoying being empty nesters. Unfortunately, things in the bedroom aren’t great. Joan doesn’t really care about sex anymore (“Honestly, I’d rather just go to sleep…”) Part of the problem is that due to dryness and lack of sensitivity, intimacy is uncomfortable.
“I just don’t feel much and it takes forever for me to climax. When (if!) it finally happens, it’s actually kind of disappointing – was it really worth all that work? My husband tries so hard, but it’s not his fault. Things just don’t seem to work like they used to…”
What Joan and Victor are experiencing is very common.
The truth is that around 50% of women experience problems with intimacy. Decreased sexual pleasure can be caused by a low sex drive, vaginal dryness, pain with intercourse, the vaginal canal being too loose (less sensation) or too tight (discomfort), and difficulty achieving an orgasm. Many women “give up” on sex, and just avoid it all together.
This is a very personal issue, and can be hard to talk about. There is often guilt, shame and embarrassment involved. Intimacy is very important in relationships – it helps build trust and connection. When you lose intimacy (or if just isn’t the same as it used to be) both you and your partner are affected. And when the loss of intimacy affects your relationship it can affect your whole family!
Please don’t suffer in silence! We understand. And the good news is there are treatments that can bring back desire, pleasure and so much more!
Why is this happening?
Stress, fatigue and depression can all diminish libido. Looking after yourself and finding balance in your life is important. As women, we often put everyone else first, and our needs are put on the back burner. If we are exhausted, intimacy is naturally going to be the last thing on your mind!
Many medications can cause problems with sexual function, including birth control pills, antidepressants and some blood pressure medications. Even antihistamines can contribute to vaginal dryness. Taking a look at your prescriptions may give us a clue about what’s happening.
Hormonal changes can really throw intimacy for a loop. Hypothyroidism, PMS, perimenopause and menopause all affect intimacy.
Let’s make a special mention of testosterone.
Testosterone is typically thought of as the male hormone, but women need testosterone too. In 2004, a Boston University study found that women who reported the greatest sexual desire had higher levels of free testosterone. Canadian researchers report that women with higher levels of testosterone climax more often than those with lower hormone levels. Replacing testosterone when it is deficient can result in tremendous improvements in every aspect of sexual function in women.
What is happening “down there?”
Vaginal Laxity: Loss of tone is caused by aging, genetics or vaginal childbirth. Up to 76% of women may experience decreased sensation due to laxity during their lifetimes
Stress Urinary Incontinence: This is a very common problem in women over 40 (or after childbirth). We don’t have prescription drugs that really help. Previously, the only options we had to offer were surgery (only for the most severe cases) or Kegel exercises to strengthen the surrounding structure of the bladder (which are great, but not always enough)
External Appearance: Unhappy with how you look? Dissatisfaction with the appearance of your external genitalia can lead to low self esteem, lack of confidence and reduced sexual satisfaction.
Vaginal Dryness: Lack of lubrication can cause intercourse to become uncomfortable, or even painful. Using lubricants can help, but may not fully fix the problem.
We have solutions to help!
The good news is that modern treatments are now available! You do NOT have to put up with sitting on the sidelines and feeling like you are “missing out” on an important part of life, or deal with stress in your relationship over lack of intimacy.
Our women’s treatments regenerate, rejuvenate and restore sexual function so you can enjoy physical intimacy!
Votiva – VOTIVA is a non-invasive treatment for both the internal and external areas of the vagina. It tones and tightens tissues, improves sensitivity, increases lubrication and reduces stress incontinence – quickly, safely and comfortably. You can expect to feel a heating sensation during the treatment. Women who’ve had a hot stone massage often report the heating sensation is similar.
Vaginal Rejuvenation Shot – This shot uses Platelet Rich Plasma (PRP), the fraction of your blood that contains growth factors. PRP has been used for years to help professional athletes heal from orthopedic injuries by injecting it into joints and it has been used to help improve wound healing in surgical patients. Now we can use PRP to harness your own body’s natural ability to heal and regenerate for increased lubrication, sensitivity and reduced urinary leakage.
SheWave – our newest treatment, SheWave uses sound wave therapy to increase blood flow for improved sensitivity and lubrication.
Since being treated, Joan finds that sex is no longer painful and sensitivity is much better. She is able to enjoy intimacy – and she and Victor have rekindled their romance. They are enjoying their new sense of connection, and finding that life is just more fun!
If you are looking for help in restoring intimacy, please let us know! We are happy to discuss your particular situation and what solutions may be the best fit for you.
We believe that intimacy is important, and that you deserve to love the way you feel!